shoutout to the friends that still like me
all two of you
*mom voice* YOU’RE GOING TO GET SALMONELLA
That was one of the most breathtaking scene from Avatar the last airbender.
say something i’m giving up on you
1: You are not lazy, you are ill.
2: You are not selfish for taking care of yourself.
3: You are not arrogant for loving yourself.
4: It’s okay to feel sad, but it’s not okay to let the sadness win.
5: Your worth isn’t defined by if a person does or does not love you.
6: Do not put all of your happiness into one person. Ultimately you have to be your own hero.
7: A healthy person does not wish to be sicker. There is no such thing as “not sick enough”.
8: It’s okay to be alone every once in a while.
9: A bad day doesn’t equal a bad life.
10: Sometimes not giving into your addictions will make you feel worse in that moment than if you had given in, but honestly, the worst days in recovery are better than the best days in relapse.
11: Strategies and techniques are your new best friend.
12: Eating doesn’t mean you’re weak.
13: Not eating doesn’t mean you’re strong.
14: The words ‘f*ck it’ do come in handy once in a while.
15: Your feelings are valid simply because you’re feeling them. You do not need to justify yourself.
16: Never feel guilty for being sad because “someone has it worse than you”.
17: People are not perfect. They will offend you, hurt you and let you down from time to time, but this can be from lack of understanding; it does not mean that they don’t love you.
18: You are not a burden.
19: You have to learn to love yourself before you can fully love someone else.
20: Do not let your illness define or limit you.
21: Don’t be afraid to walk away from toxic relationships/friendships.
22: Do the things you love. Every. Single. Day.
23: It’s okay to be different.
24: Good things can, do, and will happen to you.
25: Recovery is not about being strictly happy, it’s about learning to become whole.
26: You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. So stop analyzing it and wondering about what you could’ve or should’ve done. Learn to let go.
27: Letting go isn’t a one time thing, you need to do it over and over again.
28: The bad things people say about you, actually are reflections of what they think of themselves, not you.
29: Everything seems bad when it’s 3am.
30: You’re not worthless, you’re priceless.
31: One day this pain will all make sense to you. There are things you need to learn.
32: Ultimately it’s only your opinion of yourself that matters. Do what makes YOU happy.
33: U hella rad.
|—||Things I’ve learned in recovery. (via asoulsearch)|
i might be fake but at least i never turned on gabriella to impress my basketball team : /
do you guys remember that one post about how men feel entitled to take up so much space and women have to deal with a lot less?
This is actually a documented thing. You always see men on the subway or tube or whatever using both armrests while women sit with their arms hunched together into their laps. That’s why I always make a point to take up at least one if not both armrests of the tube so men can be uncomfortable for once.
^ again, for all the people telling me posting this picture is complaining too much.
In my college classes (and high school too) guys were always stretching, sticking fists and elbows in my face, leaning their heads back over my desk, over my work, spreading their legs out, kicking my bag with their dirty shoes. And let’s not pretend they were in other guys’ space as much as they were in women’s.
It’s so true, this happens to me every day on the train. Same with the walking thing, women will weave out of the way whereas men just walk straight and plow down anything in their path. I always end up playing chicken with men on the sidewalk now, because I refuse to move out of their way.
I love playing chicken with dudes who hog the sidewalk. BODY CHECK! Fucking assholes.
“NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS!” FUCK OFF.
“AS A MAN, I THINK THAT…” FUCK OFF.
Men always have the same defensive bullshit to spout every time they get called out on their shit. AND IT IS BORING. They remind me of those toys where you pull a string an they have like 5 phrases they can say. Over and over and over.
same here with playing chicken, its hilarious sometimes because they get this flash of realization in their eyes that says ‘holy shit, she’s NOT going to move/??? what do????’ because THEY ARE SO USED TO EVERYONE MOVING FOR THEM
when i was younger my grandpa drew this on a piece of paper,
and he asked me how i, as the red circle, would get around the two people (black circles) if i was walking down the street.
so of course i came back with
moving out of the way for them as i walked.
he asked me if i thought men would do the same and, at the time, i did because i thought it was just common courtesy. but he told me that men would barrel straight through without giving a shit and that i should do the exact same. because i was the one walking and they were the ones in the way. so that’s exactly what i do.
i find this really fascinating because this actually what defines so-called masculine and feminine traits and gestures. the whole limp-wrist thing? that’s someone decreasing the amount of space they take up by not extending their arm fully. same with crossing one’s legs, how it’s considered more masculine to swing your shoulders when you walk creating a wider gait instead of your hips, how someone who holds their elbows tightly into their torso instead of letting them fall more loosely at their sides is considered feminine.
taking up space is not just a frequent habit of males in our culture, its actually how society thinks masculinity is supposed to be expressed.
It’s also why you can seriously freak people out if you’re a woman by sitting back in your chair and draping your arm over the backrest of the one beside it.
It’s claiming space, and more importantly, it’s powerful body language. In primates (including humans), the individual that “opens” its chest—that is, leaves it open to attack—is the most dominant of them, precisely because it shows a confidence that no one WILL attack you.
Look at someone who’s comfortable vs someone who’s uncomfortable—the uncomfortable person will inevitably cross their arms or cover their chest to in an instinct to protect the thoracic cavity.
So, when you want to look HELLA confident, open up your chest and make direct eye contact. It feels weird (for women!) at first, but it’s the fastest way to freak a dude out. They genuinely do not know what to do when a woman displays behaviour they recognize as confident.
This was interesting. Literally never thought about it before.
And these are the men making decisions in women’s health. Fantastic.
back when disney channel actually taught real life morals and did a good job of it
when someone eats the food you were saving in the fridge
Sexy Wild And Gay